The importance of Reevaluating Your Life

I’ve never quite understood my own mentality on how I live my life and the decisions I make, I only know that every now and then I find it necessary to reevaluate just about every thing that I’m doing and ask myself if that’s really what I want to be doing, or if I really like the direction I’m headed in.

I find this very important and whenever I try to explain this thought process I have about reevaluating life, no one really seems to understand what I mean… Let me try to explain it a little better and in more detail here.

Realizing when its time

This can happen to me at any time, it could be the slightest argument with a friend or a situation that turned sour; whatever it may be I’ll get this feeling in my gut and I know something is wrong. Sometimes It builds from a few incidents and sometimes it can come full force from one situation or problem, but when it hits me, I know.

Taking the Time

I think this is where a lot of people fall off, you might have experienced exactly what I just described above, you probably know that exact feeling that I’m talking about, but you don’t confront it; Over time I have learned to take this instinct head on and really let myself go over anything that I need to and take the time to realize and plan out my next course of actions. Most people find this the most odd of them all, Sometimes I’ll just stay at home by myself and just think about everything that is going on and what it is that I really need to change in order to make myself happy and in the direction I want to be in. I think that this step is very critical, people just don’t take the time anymore to take everything in, they’re in a constant state of work/play and never really get to process it all thoroughly.

Whats wrong with me?

I’m not perfect by any means and neither is anyone else (if they tell you otherwise they’re full of shit) I know I have my own personal problems and I try to be as good as possible, but sometimes I start heading down a direction that I really don’t want to go down, and this could be a number or things, like hanging out with people that I know are not going to benefit me in any way or getting too confident and talking shit like I’m a baller; we can all be victims of ourselves if we cannot control these actions, and usually situations like these are what gets me into this evaluating state to begin with.

Planning out what to do

After taking some time to really think about everything that is going on in my life I plan out a course of action, this does not need to be 100% official and on paper, just get a good set of ideas in my head about what it is that I really want to do and ways I can prevent myself from getting back into the situations that got me here in the first place.

Taking action and following through with my plan

This is by far the most important part, actually doing something to change your behavior and taking the steps to do what you really want in life and not regret it; Most people take the low road on this one, They realize everything that I have said before and have been in the same situation, but they don’t actually know how to handle the situation so they do whatever they think will make them happy in life, but these actions are usually temporary and wrong. take for example, a person is really bummed out about all the problems they recently had and instead of making goals and plans on how to fix it, they just decided to as little as possible to survive and feel that they deserve to party, drink and hang out with other people to get away from there current problems, does anyone really think this is going to solve anything? Yes actually, they do; and that is where the problem exists and until they can come to an understanding of that problem they will continue to produce more problems for themselves and continue down a horrible path.

The only thing that I have found to work is to just take responsibility for yourself and your actions, Don’t rely on anyone to do anything for you, You will be more independent and able to solve problems much easier and really have respect for yourself. There’s no better feeling then solving life’s problems by yourself and reaping the mental rewards.

Life after the Evaluation

The first few weeks after a good evaluation is the best, you know exactly what you want to do and how to achieve the goals you have set for yourself, although this will not last forever; A few months down the road, maybe sooner maybe longer, you will find yourself in this situation again and have to do it all over again, but hey that’s life! And if life was not a roller coaster, it would be boring as hell.